A little background:
We all have casual friends in our lives. These are people who we may work with, or play a weekly poker or golf game with, but the relationship doesn’t go much beyond that.
When one of these casual acquaintances fails to extend an invite to an activity you are interested in attending, how do you go about securing an invite?
This is the scenario we were asked about during last week’s Q & A.
Upgrading your friend status:
The direct approach:
This is the most simple answer to the question.
First, mention your interest in the event. Then, casually mention that you’d love to pick up the slack if there’s ever an extra ticket available.
This does a couple things. First, it identifies that you’re not looking for a handout. Second, it declares your interest in the event without a guilt trip.
The last thing you want to do is give your acquaintance the impression that you’re needy. After all, you’re just looking to expand the good times you’ve already had with them to another venue.
The casual approach:
The specific inquiry this week was about tailgating and attending an LSU Baseball game. In instances like this, the event is public.
Just go out and buy yourself (and maybe a friend or partner) a ticket to the game. Then mention to your buddy that you also have tickets, and you’d love to meet up during the tailgate, or in the concourse for a beer.
This keeps the ball in your court, and enables you to enjoy the event regardless of being “in the group.”
Whichever solution seems right for your situation, there is still a chance they say NO. You need to be prepared to decide if this means you cut ties with the person, or simply stay in your lane as acquaintances.